Passion is a gritty kind of love, tough and

optimistic enthusiasm that overcomes negativity and inconvenience to make it

through to the end. (10,000 Reasons Overflow)

Friday, April 06, 2007

You're too nice

Someone said that to me yesterday. Pissed me off. Isn't that funny?!
I am nice. I don't think too nice, but I do think I am nice, and I think most people just aren't nice enough. I don't think people get out of their own way enough to do things for others. I have been told so many times, "you're too nice". Actually had a guy break up with me for that reason. He said that he would probably end up treating me like crap and thought I was "too nice" and didn't want to do that. hmmm... a few years later, saw him, he asked me out to dinner, I asked him if he remembered why he broke up with me... I told him I was still too nice.

Depending on when you have met me, you will know that I have been the biggest bitch there ever was or you will know me as too nice, and you may have even met me at a time when I fall right in the middle. Which is kind of where I think I am today. I am very nice, just don't make me mad, do or say anything to people I consider my family, and don't even think of walking all over me or I may have to kick your butt. Literally.

But that really wasn't what my friend was talking about. He said "you never give people the opportunity to hear you say 'thank you'". You never let others do for you what you do for them. Never thought about it that way. I never wanted people to have to be inconvenienced because of me. Actually, going back, I think a lot of it stems from never feeling special enough. And as a grown woman, that is where I want to stop the cycle in other girls. Which I think is a great thing. One problem, I need to stop the cycle in myself. I need to be able to think of myself as special. I need to realize that not only is my daughter a princess, because she is the daughter of the King, but so am I.

I think I got a lot to think about. I got a lot of praying to do, but mostly a whole lot of listening to do, I am sure God has a lot to tell me on this subject.

1 Peter 3:3,4 3Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. 4Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight.


Amber Land said...

Great post. I also get the your too nice comment a lot. I would rather be that way than nasty all the time. It feels better in my heart. Don't let that make you feel too bad. But do let others love and appreciate you! You are so sweet!
P.S. what ever happened with your talk with the fuel girls? I have been wondering.

Pat said...

My reputation at work is "the nice one"...I cherish that and consider it a high compliment; and I also put a great deal of myself into being that way. The trouble with that is like your friend said - we are reluctant to let others be equally nice back to us. It's time we stop putting up a road block when others want to be kind to us - in a way, we deny them the joy of being "the nice one". So, in effect our being nice kind of cancels itself out if we don't accept the kindness of others. I said all of that to say - consider yourself worthy of love - God says you are and He ought to know!