Passion is a gritty kind of love, tough and

optimistic enthusiasm that overcomes negativity and inconvenience to make it

through to the end. (10,000 Reasons Overflow)

Friday, May 02, 2008

things I've learned

I feel like in the last couple days, a lot of things have become a lot more clearer...
If I’ve learned one lesson, I’ve learned that you can’t focus on the things you can’t change. Now, you can kick the crap out of the guy that didn’t finish your contracting work, but you can’t really change someone’s perception, but you can change your outlook on how you feel about the whole situation. Just hand it all over to God because focusing on things we can’t change will make us dizzy, and a little crazy.

I’ve learned in the last six months, you can’t change people, but you can remove yourself from their lives. It’s easier to come right out and say “I’m glad you were in my life for that season (winter), but this is a different season (spring), and you, like my winter coat, don’t fit into this season.

I’ve learned that communicating clear expectations is something that can change your life in a more positive direction. I’m still working on it. Clearly communicate expectations and have an open discussion just in case their expectations were different than yours.

I’ve learned that people will be in your lives, and you can love them, but not like them so much. They will hurt you, but if you don’t forgive, it only brings more heartache to your life. And as you lay it at the feet of Jesus, don’t back up and walk away slowly, waiting to pick it back up again. Turn around, walk swiftly and peacefully away from the situation, God’s back is stronger than yours, He can carry the weight, and He’s smarter than you, so He doesn’t need you to figure it out.

And because of the very recent passing of a friend, and wondering if he’s saved or not. I’ve learned to keep on inviting people to church, God is in their lives, and He makes His presence known, but somehow people seem to find Him in “His house”, where they can eat at His table until they invite Him to theirs. I tell the kids at Alive and Fuel, don’t quit asking, and I promise, I won’t either. And in that process, I’ll just keep loving.

And maybe this doesn’t make complete sense to you, but it makes complete sense to me (which is kind of scary). God has promised to never leave me, nor forsake me. He’s always always there. And He’s not complete in doing a great work in me, I’ve just got to get out of my own way, and let Him.

Phil 1:6 6being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.


Louise said...

Good, good post! You said so much that speaks to me and where I am just now.

Jada's Gigi said...

You have learned so much that is vital to peace and living in Christ!