Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
I love my dad. He's so great at a lot of things. But there is one thing that you really have to hear is heart not his words. And I often have to hear his heart. And I say this with the greatest affection...
My dad doesn't always give the greatest compliments. I can tell you, as I have before, that I don't remember very often being told growing up that I was beautiful or pretty. And so I often struggle with that now. The other day we were coming home from a funeral and my dad said something like 'now that you're losing weight, you're becoming more beautiful' and now I laughed to myself. My dad telling me that I'm beautiful, not meaning to link my weight and my beauty but doing so anyway. My stepmom tried to help him recover, but it was ok, at the point, I chuckled outloud and said "I know what he meant" because I did. I have to chose sometimes to see the good, knowing that a lot of times I am hurting, I am struggling with whatever I am struggling with, it is hard to see good. But I am trying, I am trying to live Phil 4:8, see the good in people, hear their hearts not their words. See where their heart is. Choose to see what is good because I want to see what God sees.
I also want to see what God sees when it comes to the broken. I want to see who needs love, but how they need love, and then I want to step out and do something about it. Hurting people hurt people, and I want to stop the hurt, one person at a time, what if we started a revolution (I don't like that word because it sounds so big, I say, lets love in small ways to make a big impact), what if each one of us, saw someone in the grocery store who wanted some tea but couldn't afford it in the budget, but we handed them the $3 and the box of tea, and in our minds just said 'in the name of Jesus'. What if we prayed for the guy who sold us our paper on our way to church? what if we loved one another, those close and those not so close?
Please Lord, help me to choose to see.
Romans 12:9-13 Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. 10 Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. 11 Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. 12 Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. 13 Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.