My friend Netta always thanks me when I say I want to see her, and we actually make a date. That's not to say that we don't ever cancel or have to postpone, and sometimes I send her a text at the last minute and say 'I have this time open do you?' and I never am upset if she says no, but often our crazy and very different schedules are open at the same time. We often do something 'out' usually end up at a favorite resturaunt and chat and chat (and chat) encourage each other and just love on each other and share our lives, it's amazing.
I always kind of chuckle to myself because really, I feel like I am so blessed by her, that it really is my pleasure!
I also have another friend that if there are 5 Sundays in a month, we meet for lunch, breakfast, or dinner. Maybe you think "that's only 3 or 4 times a year". You're right, it is, but that's more than I would have probably made plans if we didn't chose that silly date :)
I will tell you, that I don't like that. I saw the need for change, and I made it.
I really have been trying to make an effort to see people I love, even if I don't think they make much of an effort to see me. I say "let's pick a date even if it's two months out, the date will be here before we know it" and it is. I am not going to lie, sometimes it hurts my feelings that I'm the one who makes the effort to call or send a note to pick a date to see them, and maybe I'm not as an important person to them, as they are to me, or maybe it's just that they don't need to because I already pick the date. Or maybe it's just that they never realized that time goes by so fast and it doesn't bug them. I don't know. It doesn't matter. They are important to me and so I make the effort. I give the options of dates, options for things to do (Zoo, eat, cook dinner, or something I know that interests them that they wouldn't normally do because no one else in their lives is interested in that).
They are important to me. That's the bottom line.
I am encouraged by people who I love and love me. I love pouring my life into others and have them do that same. Next time you say you miss me, and I say "I haven't moved, come over" I'm not just saying it, come over, I am whip up a meal or we can go for a walk or go to the zoo (It's free! I have a supporter pass so I can take two adults + kids in addition to Phyllis and I) or whatever. Pick a date, even if it's two months out, it will be here before we know it!
I love you, and you're important to me.
May you live all the days of your life. ~Jonathon Swift