It often comes up, the “love languages” I’ve actually had the book for some time, my beautiful daughter actually read it over the summer and thought it was interesting. I have always wondered what mine are, and my friend Sara wrote a post about it… which made me even more curious because it seems that I love ALL the languages (wouldn’t you know it!)
I even took the test, and I was kind of surprised by my results!! But in some ways I think not so much… This is my order:
1. Physical touch
2. Words of Affirmation
3. Quality time
4. Receiving gifts
5. Acts of service
I would have thought that words of affirmation would have been first however, after thinking about it, I think about how much I love to hold hands, hug, etc, it wasn’t that surprising, and I am surprised by the Words of Affirmation. I love to communicate with words, cards, etc, and in the same way, words can sting me for a long time, and I take them totally personally if they are hurtful.
I also think it’s funny that I love GIVING gifts but not necessarily GET gifts though I do like to get them.
I’ve been a lot more open lately, seeing and feeling love in different ways. In ways that I used to “cope” like finding myself in the back or separate from others, I am working on engaging and getting more involved. Yes, I realize that a lot of people don’t even realize I do it, but I know. I have to “coach” myself and cheer myself on inside “You can do it – you are loved” and keep moving forward. I am not to the head of the class, but I am not in the back row any longer (and I have a friend who will call me out because they believe in me, and know I have a lot of offer to others even if I don’t see it and in being “present or forward” I am more blessed by others)
I think that everyone has something they need to work on, whether we want to admit it or not, and sometimes God works on my small things in our lives and sometimes we have big issues to tackle and I think I’ve got to put on football gear because I’m in tackling mode. I’ve got lots going on, and I have to be intentional about everything I do. I have to set aside family and friend time, bible reading, seeing people I love, and even time to be quiet.
Time to be quiet. There is something I haven’t shared with too many people. I hear from God regularly. Every day? I don’t know everyday, but surely often. But His voice is audible to me on a regular basis. He gives me instruction. Sometimes it’s hard to figure out if it’s Him or dark voices in my head, so I keep the bible close and prayer is a must. I have to stay in sync. Lately though… no audible voice. And it’s weird, and not only that, it’s scary. So… I do what I know to do… read the bible, listen to Godly music, pray, and be quiet, hoping that soon He will speak. The only thing He’s said to me in the last week – “I loveyou no matter what” which is enough. I’m finding love in those who love me. And it’s good. Jesus sends people to love us in real and tangible ways. So let me say publically… “I loveyou and I’m thankful for you I can’t imagine my life without you”.
Sorry if this post is crazy all over the place… but that’s how I am…
1 John 4:16-19 16 And so we know and rely on the love God has for us.God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. 17 This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. 18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.
19 We love because he first loved us.
Thank You Jesus.