Passion is a gritty kind of love, tough and

optimistic enthusiasm that overcomes negativity and inconvenience to make it

through to the end. (10,000 Reasons Overflow)

Sunday, November 03, 2013

Encouragement needs to be authentic

There are days that start out sweet and somehow in the middle of it... Something goes terribly a rye. 

I'd like to say for the record that not too many things upset me more than when someone says "how are you still single?" Or say "you're awesome" after I just did something for them.

Well maybe for you, this seems like a compliment for me, it turns into a playground for satan because I can list off 30 - 70 reasons why I'm still single. 

I'm just gonna say it.

Shut up.

Don't ever say that to someone. Ever. It's not a compliment. 

There are many many MANY reasons why I'm still single. Maybe I should blog about them sometime. Not today though.

And another thing... While I'm at it... 

All you people... Stop telling people they are awesome because they did something for you or picked up your slack. 

Just say thank you and leave the encouragement for a time when it doesn't seem fake or because you had a gain. 

I will tell you that the sort of compliments stated above make me feel used. They make me feel like less of a Christian than pretty much anything that can be said to me. I'll also tell you that these sort of compliments make my fruit rot. They make me angry and sad and make me feel lonely (that no one is my friend unless I do something for them). 

That kind of "encouragement" doesn't seem authentic and has been working in my heart and making sure that I am authentic!

1 comment:

doo said...

I agree! And how about..."you have such a pretty face...if only you would lose some weight" or "you look great!" after losing a few pounds. Ok so I looked terrible before?? It would be a lot nicer if people would stop and think how their words are going to affect someone BEFORE they say them. Just found your blog and will be following!